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Boy’s to Men – Let’s Celebrate!

| July 3rd, 2014 | No Comments »

Celebrating ‘Manhood’

Have you ever wondered how a boy moves into manhood?  Maybe you are a man in age but feel less than capable of handling manly tasks.  Recently I held a celebration for my 15y/o son and along with 19 other men we shared Godly advice and wisdom for my son.  It was and awesome time of fellowship and growth.  I found that not only my son, but myself and all the men present were moved and impacted.  In our culture we do not often ‘Celebrate Manhood’, and so our son’s flounder in become men.  Paul says in the scriptures that children are to put childish talk, thinking and reason behind them and move into adulthood.  I believe men are to call boys into manhood and then help them walk it out.  This ministry of ‘Foundations for Families’ has many areas of focus, calling boys into manhood is one of them.  If you want to discuss more please email me at scott@foundationsforfamilies.org.

Authority

| January 7th, 2014 | No Comments »

How does your home function in regards to who is in charge? Who makes the final decisions? Is it the
father the mother, or the kids? As a counselor working and ministering to families for over two decades it is interesting to me that often times God fearing homes do not function in accordance to biblical instruction when it comes to the authority structure. I am aware that this structure is not always accepted in our culture because men are to be the head of the household based on biblical standard. Please don’t stop reading yet because you don’t agree, give me a second. Men are to be the head under the instruction of God with his helpmate being his wife. This is not an authoritarian structure but an accountable structure with a ‘couple’ being the focus under God’s hand of protection. It is sad to me to see men unwilling to be the leaders and protectors God has called us to be. I realize this tracks all the way back to Adam who did not protect Eve but I pray for men to begin taking up the mantle of watchmen over our homes and families. Men who understand the gift of Godly authority have been charged with the responsibility to protect our families in wisdom and truth. I say this as a challenge to men to take up your mantle properly and courageously. If you are not sure of how to reach out to men taking up their mantle please call me, I would love to help.

Fathers are you protecting your child’s heart?

| November 7th, 2013 | No Comments »

As a father I am often making decisions to protect my child’s well-being. I feed them healthy food. I make sure they get enough sleep and exercise to have healthy bodies. I make sure they do their schoolwork to have healthy minds and sharp intellect. I encourage them to talk about issues so they can have healthy emotions. The greater question though, as a Godly father, is the condition of their spiritual heart. Can they hear from God? Are they listening? As Godly fathers we need to prepare our kids to ‘have ears to hear…’ as Jesus told John in the book of Revelation. In order to prepare my kids to hear their heavenly father I need to prepare them by hearing my earthly voice. The things that I say can have a great impact on how my children interact with and listen to God. Speak wisely, Dads. Speak with love and compassion. Speak about your Heavenly Father with your children. Speak to Him with them. And when you speak to your children harshly, causing a hurt or calloused heart, seek their forgiveness and healing. Your children have tender hearts.

What is the Condition of Your Heart?

| October 7th, 2013 | 1 Comment »

Is your heart soft and open to relationships today?  Recently God has been teaching me to have a soft, fleshy heart spiritually speaking.  Too often our hearts have become wounded and calloused by past hurts and relationships.  As callouses grow and become more solidified, future relationships become more difficult and intimacy grows faint for the fear of perpetual hurt. These callouses can only be removed by God. When I look at our culture of wounded and calloused hearts, the truth is clear. I have no doubt that our ever increasing divorce rate and the lack of healthy marriages is a direct result of these wounds. Jesus said in the gospels that Moses allowed divorce because of the hardening of the people’s hearts. The same seems true about our present world.  How is your heart today, can you be intimate or are you calloused? Many have been wounded, but many have been healed. God can remove your callouses, it begins with asking.

Living at Peace – Really?

| August 12th, 2011 | No Comments »

How many of you are not at peace even with members of your own family?  There is turmoil and ‘stuff’ that needs to be dealt with but nobody has the courage to face the tough issues.  Does God really expect us to live at peace?  Yes, and I quote, ‘Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.’  God’s words out of Hebrews 12:14.  Wow, we are really suppose to pursue peace with one another.  I see this lack of peace on a personal level daily due to my counseling with couples and families.  Many of us consider peace in regards to nations and governments, heck if we can’t be at peace in our homes we will never be at peace in our nations.  So how is this to be done?  One huge key is to address issues that rise to the surface.  As an example, ‘My son decides he will choose to disrespect my wife.’  (Yes it is a choice).  Do I ignore the issue and let mom deal with our son, or do I step in and teach the wrong he has shown my wife.  Many would say to avoid conflict is the way to peace.  Many see conflict and confrontation as non-peaceable, actually the truth is confrontation has to occur to achieve peace.  I need to step in and confront my son and train him in the proper way to address his mother, thus training him in honor and peace.  Who are you not at peace with today in your home?  Pray for that person, ask God how to confront in love and go.  Go to that person and address the issue, God will bless your efforts.

Wrestling with God?

| July 19th, 2011 | No Comments »

Is wrestling with your Father for you or because He wants to bless you?

In Genesis 32 we find Jacob wrestling with a man, God, Father and he wins.  Maybe like me you are asking, “How does a man beat God in a wrestling match?”  Maybe the same way my son, at age 6, beats me in checkers.  I let him beat me.  What is the lesson to be learned here?  God is a perfect father and he knows very well the need his children have to grow in strength and skill and training.  As a father I want my children to grow in wisdom and stature.  What are you wrestling with God about today?  Are you winning or have you given up thinking you may never ‘get it’?  Your heavenly Father wants you to learn in the process of the match. Keep wrestling and be trained up for your future.  Also, remember Dad’s, to wrestle well with your children.

Thoughts from Scripture on wrestling: Genesis 32, Psalms 13 NIV, Colossians 4:12 NIV.

Discipline in the Home

| December 6th, 2010 | 1 Comment »

In Scripture it talks frequently about using a ‘rod’ to discipline.  Many homes, including God fearing homes, no longer obey the lessons of the bible in disciplining their children.  Recently I was talking to a father who was told by his fourth grader that he could no touch him or his son would tell the school and the father would be taken from the home.  This fourth grader was taught this at school.  My friend went on to teach his son that touching, spanking, would occur in the home and if the state authorities were contacted that the son would be leaving the home not the father.  Our world system is not in favor of discipline in the home because, our enemy Satan, desires our homes to be ruled by rebellion instead of loving discipline.  As I talk to parents daily the issue of discipline is a common discussion.  I am asked, ‘How do I make my child obey?’  My first question is whether there is prayer and discipline in the home.  The question is for the entire home, parents included.  We as parents need to have self discipline if our kids are to follow.  We as parents need to also pray before we discipline as to receive God’s input for the proper ‘rod’ to use.  The discipline maturity process is simple:

1st we are disciplined by others,

2nd we discipline ourselves,

3rd we obey in order to please the authorities over us, parents, God, boss etc. and not have to be disciplined.

Are you pleasing God today in how you are disciplining yourself and obeying Him?  If not how can your children follow?

Spiritual Fathering

| January 15th, 2010 | No Comments »

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be mentored by Jesus Christ himself? To walk along side of him while he healed the sick and raised the dead.  I can only imagine.  Today as fathers we are called to mentor our children in such a fashion.  Many would say this is impossible.  In our own strength it is impossible.  But the fact is, as Christ followers we are given grace by God to …walk as Jesus walked.  Men how often do you pray for your children, pray over your children?  How often do you open up the word of God and teach his principles?

Book recommendation:Boy's Passage, Man's Journey

Boys Passage, Man’s Journey

By Brian Molitor